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Thank you Adrienne for the term.  So cute.

What’s also cute?  My dogs!

Guess who said his first word…Soy Bean!

Guess what it was…Daisy!

I’m a jealous that I’ve been taking care of Soy Bean his whole life and we’ve only had Daisy for three weeks yet her name is his first word?  Well, let’s just say she’s lucky she’s adorable.

So is Soph.

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Summer Fun

I’m exhausted but I’m loving this summer schedule.  Today I felt a little anxious because July seems to be going a bit too fast for me.  I want to savor summer as much as possible and enjoy every second with my little guy.

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Yesterday I took him to the beach for the first time.  I don’t have any pictures because it was a mommy solo trip, but he had such a blast.  We have a small town beach on a bay, which is perfect for young kids since it’s fairly warm and there aren’t really any waves.  The boy and I sat on the shore and he splashed around in the water and watched the boats.  It was really magical.

After that the magic faded and he turned into a demon baby, but other than that we had a good day…

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Today we ventured down to the Plymouth waterfront to walk around.  If you’re from the area please know there is plenty of free parking by the Nelson Street playground (RIP splash pad).

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I love Plymouth.  It’s so packed with history.

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Anyways, we walked by the rock and checked out some local shops, ending out trek with a raspberry lime rickey from Peaceful Meadows.  I craved these all the time when I was pregnant.  I almost wanted to turn back and buy another one.  They are incredibly refreshing and addictive.  Plus they’re not as bad for you as a milkshake right?

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So you are probably wondering about the puggles I’m guessing.  I knew it!  They are doing great.  I think Sophie is a little bummed that Daisy isn’t as playful, but Daisy is basically an old lady.  Although, she flew down the deck stairs tonight when she saw a neighbor’s dog.  Now I’m starting to think she hobbles for attention…

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We love our girls!

What I Hope Your Kids Know

Okay, so I realize I’m fairly new at this whole mom gig, but I have been teaching kids for quite some time.  I’ve worked with kids who have summer homes and I’ve worked with kids who have no home.  I’ve taught kids who receive free lunch and I’ve taught kids who have personal chefs at home.  I have kids whose parents were high school sweethearts and I have kids whose mother was killed by their father.

Despite all these differences, my hope for your kids is always the same.  As the mother of a baby, I look at him and I plan for how I can mold him into a happy and successful human being.  The following is what I think is most important from my perspective as a high school teacher.

I hope your kids know about money.

Of course I’m not saying share all your financial woes and personal finances with your kids, but they need to know the value of a dollar.  The word “expensive” should be a part of your child’s vocabulary.  They should know what that words means, whether something is expensive to you or not.  They should know when they have something that others don’t.  They should know they should not throw away new school supplies at the end of the year or destroy other’s property.  Even if you can afford it, please don’t just buy them random sh#t.  It does nothing for them.  Spend time with your kids.  When I ask student how their summer was they talk about what they did, not what they bought.

I hope your kids know their teachers don’t care about their grades, we care that they try.

When I was a kid I always assumed my teachers would be disappointed in me if I got a bad grade.  As a teacher today, nothing could be further from the truth.  While I might be disappointed for a kid if they bomb an exam, I am never disappointed in them as long as they tried.  What kills me is when a kid gives little to no effort.  Apathy gets me, and it doesn’t get you very far in life either.

I hope your kids know their are other options out there besides college.

I can write an eloquent five paragraph essay no problem.  I can’t fix a car.  I’ve had kids who can’t write a five paragraph essay if their life depended on it, but they can fix a car.  They could probably build a car if they had to.  Am I smarter than them?  Absolutely not.

I’m a huge fan of public schools, and I think we do an excellent job differentiating instruction, but we as a society need to start recognizing intelligence that is not based in a classroom.  We need to celebrate that everyone brings something different to the table. Some kids are going to be great writers, some can fix things, some have interpersonal intelligence, some are amazing artists…the list goes on.  If your kids can spend hours working taking something apart and putting it back together but struggles to compare and contrast the Articles of Confederation and Constitution, don’t make them feel as though they are lacking.  Celebrate their gifts.

I hope your kids know what basic manners are.

As someone who has worked in the service industry, I can tell you this makes a huge difference.  Plus when you are kind, people are more willing to help you and go out of their way for you.  It’s that simple.

I hope your kids know that they are special.

They’re not better than anyone else, but they have something special about them.  Whether it’s their quirky sense of humor, love of animals, or gift for writing.  There has been something I’ve appreciated about every student I have worked with, no matter how hard of a time they gave me.

I hope your kids know there is no job that is beneath them.

If there’s anything my generation can pass along to their kids it’s this.  Growing up we were taught that you get good grades, go to college and then get the job you want.  After that you can save up money, buy a house, have a car, go on vacation once in awhile and so on.  Yeah, not so much these days.  When I graduated in 2007, the job market was terrible.  For the first decade of my life after college I always had to work two jobs.  It took me a long time to get the teaching position I wanted.  I consider myself very fortunate to own a home and be able to take the summers off.  Over that ten years after I graduated college I cleaned some gross bathrooms and was talked down to a lot by people who thought they were better than me.  You are not better than anyone else.  Waiting tables, making coffee, cleaning, and so on is not beneath you.  Never ever judge someone by the work they do.

Well, that’s all I can think of for now…I know the minute I publish this I’ll come up with something else.  I know we all want the same for our kids, and sometimes in the hustle and bustle of our lives we lose track of what is really important.

 

Summer Update

So if you’re from Mass you know we’ve been living in basically the most uncomfortable hot yoga studio for the last week.  I don’t even want to think about our electric bill since we’ve been running the central air non stop.

It’s certainly thrown a wrench in my summer plans of getting out and walking with Soy Bean everyday.  It’s just too damn hot!

We’re due for some rain tomorrow and that should hopefully bring us some relief.  It’s been tough being cooped up indoors.  I’ve brought the boys outside a few times to play with the water table we bought SB for his birthday, but even that gets oppressive quickly.

It’s also preventing us from getting the dogs out, they venture out to go to the bathroom and that’s about it.  Daisy needs to lose a few pounds (just like her mom!), but that’s been tough between being stuck indoors and me wanting to spoil her with treats.

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She’s been adjusting wonderfully, however.  I wouldn’t even say she’s adjusting anymore.  She’s just here and she’s our dog.  She belongs here.

Soy Bean and I have been getting in our walks at Target which also equates to Mommy spending lots of $$$… I like say I’m a patron of Target.  We’ve managed to visit a few friends so far and have plans to see more.  We’re also looking forward to enjoying a summer near the coast.  For the last decade of my life, I’ve lived about an hour from the nearest beach.  Also, the hubs and I are starting to plan a special date night to celebrate our wedding anniversary.  I can’t believe we’ve only been married for three years and have known each other for four!

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I will honestly say, and I don’t mean to be divisive, but as someone how is a working mom but gets to spend a few months as a stay at home mom, I am finding being a SAHM a lot harder.  I can’t say I didn’t anticipate this but I’m surprised how tired I am at the end of the ay (even when a sneak in a nap with SB).  Hats off to all moms.  Seriously…

Meet Daisy

Okay guys, I think my husband and I are officially crazy.

Either that or we need to go into the puggle retirement home business…

Please welcome the newest member of our family, Daisy.  Daisy is an 11 year old puggle we rescued last week.

So here’s the story.  Last week I was a little bored so I decided to check out petfinder.com.  I plugged in pugs in the Boston area and this adorable girl popped up.

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I read her bio and immediately fell in love.  Who couldn’t love that face?  She reminded me so much of our Sophie and I couldn’t imagine her spending the rest of her days in a shelter. I texted my husband and I must have caught him at a good time because he said we could get her!

Long story short, my stepson drove into Boston the very next day to meet Daisy.  When we arrived they brought Daisy out from her cage.  She was more interested in the treats we had for her at first, but we took her out and you could just tell she was a sweet dog.  The adoption process was super quick and easy.

Daisy was surrendered by her family earlier this month.  She had been with them since she was a puppy, but they were moving and could not have her at their new home.  I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been.  When we rented our last apartment it was challenging to find a place that was pet friendly and affordable.  I have zero judgement and I can tell by her temperament she was a very loved dog.

She came from a family with three children, and you can tell because she is very comfortable with our kids.  She loves to snuggle and snooze and is just the sweetest.  She makes Sophie look young for sure since she’s a little overweight and has some arthritis.  I know adopting a senior dog has some challenges, but if you’re looking for a gentle friend who loves nothing but head scratches and snuggles it’s the way to go.  She’s a healthy dog, but I understand she is older.

No matter how long we’ll have with her we will love her every single day for the rest of her life.

Year One: Working Mom Edition

Well first I want to talk about Soy Bean’s first birthday.  Success!  For his party we kept it simple.  I order a few jungle themed decorations, matching shirts, and we had pizzas delivered and made salads.  We kept the party small with just family and my husband made this amazing cake.  I think he should consider a career change!

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I can hardly believe this school year is almost over.  When I think about my life in the fall it’s hard to grasp how quickly things change in such a short period of time.  When I first went back to work I felt completely overwhelmed.  Even with all the help I have, every day I faced seemed impossible.

Over time things became easier for me.  I established routines and figured out what worked best for me.  I think the biggest change was creating a consistent bedtime routine for the baby.  I have to admit, it’s nice to know my husband and I will have some alone time every night.  I was saying to him last evening as we sat on the couch, that months ago it felt like we would never be able to relax at night without worrying about the baby.  Now he goes to bed so easily (most of the time!) and sleeps at least a solid 10 hours.

I also cannot be more thankful for the fact that Soy Bean goes to my parents’ house everyday.  When I drop him off  I know that he is loved all day.  I know they enjoy him as well, but I’m sure my mom is looking forward to some baby-free time this summer!

My other savior this year has been my friends at work.  I have to admit, while I’m looking forward to summer, I’m a little bummed I won’t see these wonderful ladies everyday.  After leaving college, I had to adjust to not being around my friends all the time.  When you’re in college you get to eat dinner with your friends every night. Now, I can say I eat lunch every day with friends.  How lucky am I?

I’m sure we’ll have plenty of time to get together with the kids this summer, along with some ladies sangria evenings, but it’s not the same.  I guess that gives me something to look forward to in the fall.

For now, I’m excited to have the entire summer with my baby.  I want to inducement to the beach and splash pads and hopefully fit some long walks in there as well.  I’ll keep you posted.