Baby #2

Let’s just say baby #2 is a game changer, especially when you have a toddler at home.  While it’s been challenging I’m finding having a newborn the second time around so much easier than the first time!  I don’t know if it’s because Baby C is super chill or if I’m some sort of magical parenting expert or maybe a combination of both.  However, you throw in the toddler factor and all Hell breaks loose.  I’m mean what’s up with these two year olds?  Learn how to regulate your emotions already, my goodness.

Since I have a few moments with Baby C content in his newborn lounger (which his older brother never liked) I thought I would make a top 5 list of differences with my second baby since I love making lists so much.

#1 Less Anxiety

Brought to you by Lexapro, well yes but also as a second time mother I’ve done this before and have a healthy and most of the time happy two year old.  My second round of motherhood comes with a confidence I didn’t know I had when I had Soy Bean.  I’ve been pretty open about my struggles with postpartum depression, anxiety and OCD here and this was certainly a factor during my last pregnancy.  I advocated for myself and was open about how I was feeling plus I was at a different practice and received much better mental health care this time around.  With my second I know what I’m doing and that feeling is empowering.

#2 Recovery

I want to dive into this further in a separate post but the recovery after the birth of my second was so much easier than the first.  In my case I opted for a VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarian).  I pushed for a VBAC my entire pregnancy and again I’ll dive deeper into this in another post but the recovery from the deliveries were like night and day.  Anyone who ever says having a C section is the easy way out could not be more incorrect!  I felt like a million bucks after having this baby.  I feel so fortunate to have both birth experiences.

#3 The Stuff!

Bables come with a lot of accessories and stuff.  Carseats, strollers, adaptors, breast pumps, blankets, and so on.  The list is really endless.  However, with a second you know what you need and don’t need and most likely you already have what you need.  Most of the items I had to buy for Baby C were just because.  He is using the same crib, carseat, bath, etc.  I bought him some cute clothes and of course had to spring for a double stroller (thank you Facebook Marketplace) but besides what I WANTED to get him we already had everything we needed.

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#4 It all Changes…

When I brought Soy Bean home from the hospital I thought I would never sleep again.  I thought I would never have another date night with my husband and I would spend the rest of my life changing diapers. It might seem that way when you bring your first baby home but trust me it all changes.  Time goes so fast and before you know it they are walking and talking.  With Baby C I am trying to soak everything up.  He’s not going to be so little forever.  He’s not going to fit perfectly on my chest for snuggles and sleep next to me in his bassinet forever.  I find that’s the toughest part about being a parent.  We lose some of ourselves when we give our lives to others but if we do our job right they don’t need us so much anymore.  Dylan and I have had one glorious date night dinner since we brought Baby C home and we always remind ourselves that all of this is only temporary and that we need to enjoy it.

#5 Love

My heart was already full with Soy Bean.  I loved Baby C from the moment I found he existed.  When you have an additional child never worry about how you are going to possibly love them because it’s there.

I’m Back…

We’ve been a tad busy since I last checked in.  I had been meaning to write several entries over the course of the last year but they will remain in my pending posts file.

Well first of all, if you don’t follow me on social media, we had another baby!  We had a baby boy in August and he is an absolute dream.  I’m excited to write about being a new mom again and tackling life with a baby and toddler.  It’s certainly been different this time around, but having a two year old I tell ya…

On the food front as you can imagine we’ve been aiming for easy meals, which of course doesn’t always mean the healthiest food but I’m trying to make better choices every day.

Being a mom is tough.  I’ve taken FMLA time which has been wonderful but at the same time super challenging.  Being home with kids is tough!  I’m lucky enough to have A TON of help from my mom but even with an extra set of hands and another adult to talk to each day is exhausting in its own way.  Baby C is soooo easy too, but even with a chill baby it’s still a lot of work (and laundry).  Well our dinner is ready (yes I know we’re eating too late) but I’m looking forward to checking in again soon!

3 Years…

I just wanted to write a quick post.  A few days ago the hubby and I celebrated 3 years of marriage.  I can’t believe how much has changed over the last few years.  We had a baby, bought a house, adopted a dog…the list goes on.

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Marriage is certainly not easy because life is not easy.  When you’re married, everything that happens to your spouse happens to you.  That goes for the good and bad.

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We’ve been fortunate that we’ve been able to experience lots of happy events together so far and are looking forward to many more.

Love you honey buns.

 

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Thank you Adrienne for the term.  So cute.

What’s also cute?  My dogs!

Guess who said his first word…Soy Bean!

Guess what it was…Daisy!

I’m a jealous that I’ve been taking care of Soy Bean his whole life and we’ve only had Daisy for three weeks yet her name is his first word?  Well, let’s just say she’s lucky she’s adorable.

So is Soph.

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Summer Fun

I’m exhausted but I’m loving this summer schedule.  Today I felt a little anxious because July seems to be going a bit too fast for me.  I want to savor summer as much as possible and enjoy every second with my little guy.

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Yesterday I took him to the beach for the first time.  I don’t have any pictures because it was a mommy solo trip, but he had such a blast.  We have a small town beach on a bay, which is perfect for young kids since it’s fairly warm and there aren’t really any waves.  The boy and I sat on the shore and he splashed around in the water and watched the boats.  It was really magical.

After that the magic faded and he turned into a demon baby, but other than that we had a good day…

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Today we ventured down to the Plymouth waterfront to walk around.  If you’re from the area please know there is plenty of free parking by the Nelson Street playground (RIP splash pad).

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I love Plymouth.  It’s so packed with history.

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Anyways, we walked by the rock and checked out some local shops, ending out trek with a raspberry lime rickey from Peaceful Meadows.  I craved these all the time when I was pregnant.  I almost wanted to turn back and buy another one.  They are incredibly refreshing and addictive.  Plus they’re not as bad for you as a milkshake right?

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So you are probably wondering about the puggles I’m guessing.  I knew it!  They are doing great.  I think Sophie is a little bummed that Daisy isn’t as playful, but Daisy is basically an old lady.  Although, she flew down the deck stairs tonight when she saw a neighbor’s dog.  Now I’m starting to think she hobbles for attention…

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We love our girls!

What I Hope Your Kids Know

Okay, so I realize I’m fairly new at this whole mom gig, but I have been teaching kids for quite some time.  I’ve worked with kids who have summer homes and I’ve worked with kids who have no home.  I’ve taught kids who receive free lunch and I’ve taught kids who have personal chefs at home.  I have kids whose parents were high school sweethearts and I have kids whose mother was killed by their father.

Despite all these differences, my hope for your kids is always the same.  As the mother of a baby, I look at him and I plan for how I can mold him into a happy and successful human being.  The following is what I think is most important from my perspective as a high school teacher.

I hope your kids know about money.

Of course I’m not saying share all your financial woes and personal finances with your kids, but they need to know the value of a dollar.  The word “expensive” should be a part of your child’s vocabulary.  They should know what that words means, whether something is expensive to you or not.  They should know when they have something that others don’t.  They should know they should not throw away new school supplies at the end of the year or destroy other’s property.  Even if you can afford it, please don’t just buy them random sh#t.  It does nothing for them.  Spend time with your kids.  When I ask student how their summer was they talk about what they did, not what they bought.

I hope your kids know their teachers don’t care about their grades, we care that they try.

When I was a kid I always assumed my teachers would be disappointed in me if I got a bad grade.  As a teacher today, nothing could be further from the truth.  While I might be disappointed for a kid if they bomb an exam, I am never disappointed in them as long as they tried.  What kills me is when a kid gives little to no effort.  Apathy gets me, and it doesn’t get you very far in life either.

I hope your kids know their are other options out there besides college.

I can write an eloquent five paragraph essay no problem.  I can’t fix a car.  I’ve had kids who can’t write a five paragraph essay if their life depended on it, but they can fix a car.  They could probably build a car if they had to.  Am I smarter than them?  Absolutely not.

I’m a huge fan of public schools, and I think we do an excellent job differentiating instruction, but we as a society need to start recognizing intelligence that is not based in a classroom.  We need to celebrate that everyone brings something different to the table. Some kids are going to be great writers, some can fix things, some have interpersonal intelligence, some are amazing artists…the list goes on.  If your kids can spend hours working taking something apart and putting it back together but struggles to compare and contrast the Articles of Confederation and Constitution, don’t make them feel as though they are lacking.  Celebrate their gifts.

I hope your kids know what basic manners are.

As someone who has worked in the service industry, I can tell you this makes a huge difference.  Plus when you are kind, people are more willing to help you and go out of their way for you.  It’s that simple.

I hope your kids know that they are special.

They’re not better than anyone else, but they have something special about them.  Whether it’s their quirky sense of humor, love of animals, or gift for writing.  There has been something I’ve appreciated about every student I have worked with, no matter how hard of a time they gave me.

I hope your kids know there is no job that is beneath them.

If there’s anything my generation can pass along to their kids it’s this.  Growing up we were taught that you get good grades, go to college and then get the job you want.  After that you can save up money, buy a house, have a car, go on vacation once in awhile and so on.  Yeah, not so much these days.  When I graduated in 2007, the job market was terrible.  For the first decade of my life after college I always had to work two jobs.  It took me a long time to get the teaching position I wanted.  I consider myself very fortunate to own a home and be able to take the summers off.  Over that ten years after I graduated college I cleaned some gross bathrooms and was talked down to a lot by people who thought they were better than me.  You are not better than anyone else.  Waiting tables, making coffee, cleaning, and so on is not beneath you.  Never ever judge someone by the work they do.

Well, that’s all I can think of for now…I know the minute I publish this I’ll come up with something else.  I know we all want the same for our kids, and sometimes in the hustle and bustle of our lives we lose track of what is really important.