What I Hope Your Kids Know

Okay, so I realize I’m fairly new at this whole mom gig, but I have been teaching kids for quite some time.  I’ve worked with kids who have summer homes and I’ve worked with kids who have no home.  I’ve taught kids who receive free lunch and I’ve taught kids who have personal chefs at home.  I have kids whose parents were high school sweethearts and I have kids whose mother was killed by their father.

Despite all these differences, my hope for your kids is always the same.  As the mother of a baby, I look at him and I plan for how I can mold him into a happy and successful human being.  The following is what I think is most important from my perspective as a high school teacher.

I hope your kids know about money.

Of course I’m not saying share all your financial woes and personal finances with your kids, but they need to know the value of a dollar.  The word “expensive” should be a part of your child’s vocabulary.  They should know what that words means, whether something is expensive to you or not.  They should know when they have something that others don’t.  They should know they should not throw away new school supplies at the end of the year or destroy other’s property.  Even if you can afford it, please don’t just buy them random sh#t.  It does nothing for them.  Spend time with your kids.  When I ask student how their summer was they talk about what they did, not what they bought.

I hope your kids know their teachers don’t care about their grades, we care that they try.

When I was a kid I always assumed my teachers would be disappointed in me if I got a bad grade.  As a teacher today, nothing could be further from the truth.  While I might be disappointed for a kid if they bomb an exam, I am never disappointed in them as long as they tried.  What kills me is when a kid gives little to no effort.  Apathy gets me, and it doesn’t get you very far in life either.

I hope your kids know their are other options out there besides college.

I can write an eloquent five paragraph essay no problem.  I can’t fix a car.  I’ve had kids who can’t write a five paragraph essay if their life depended on it, but they can fix a car.  They could probably build a car if they had to.  Am I smarter than them?  Absolutely not.

I’m a huge fan of public schools, and I think we do an excellent job differentiating instruction, but we as a society need to start recognizing intelligence that is not based in a classroom.  We need to celebrate that everyone brings something different to the table. Some kids are going to be great writers, some can fix things, some have interpersonal intelligence, some are amazing artists…the list goes on.  If your kids can spend hours working taking something apart and putting it back together but struggles to compare and contrast the Articles of Confederation and Constitution, don’t make them feel as though they are lacking.  Celebrate their gifts.

I hope your kids know what basic manners are.

As someone who has worked in the service industry, I can tell you this makes a huge difference.  Plus when you are kind, people are more willing to help you and go out of their way for you.  It’s that simple.

I hope your kids know that they are special.

They’re not better than anyone else, but they have something special about them.  Whether it’s their quirky sense of humor, love of animals, or gift for writing.  There has been something I’ve appreciated about every student I have worked with, no matter how hard of a time they gave me.

I hope your kids know there is no job that is beneath them.

If there’s anything my generation can pass along to their kids it’s this.  Growing up we were taught that you get good grades, go to college and then get the job you want.  After that you can save up money, buy a house, have a car, go on vacation once in awhile and so on.  Yeah, not so much these days.  When I graduated in 2007, the job market was terrible.  For the first decade of my life after college I always had to work two jobs.  It took me a long time to get the teaching position I wanted.  I consider myself very fortunate to own a home and be able to take the summers off.  Over that ten years after I graduated college I cleaned some gross bathrooms and was talked down to a lot by people who thought they were better than me.  You are not better than anyone else.  Waiting tables, making coffee, cleaning, and so on is not beneath you.  Never ever judge someone by the work they do.

Well, that’s all I can think of for now…I know the minute I publish this I’ll come up with something else.  I know we all want the same for our kids, and sometimes in the hustle and bustle of our lives we lose track of what is really important.

 

Summer Update

So if you’re from Mass you know we’ve been living in basically the most uncomfortable hot yoga studio for the last week.  I don’t even want to think about our electric bill since we’ve been running the central air non stop.

It’s certainly thrown a wrench in my summer plans of getting out and walking with Soy Bean everyday.  It’s just too damn hot!

We’re due for some rain tomorrow and that should hopefully bring us some relief.  It’s been tough being cooped up indoors.  I’ve brought the boys outside a few times to play with the water table we bought SB for his birthday, but even that gets oppressive quickly.

It’s also preventing us from getting the dogs out, they venture out to go to the bathroom and that’s about it.  Daisy needs to lose a few pounds (just like her mom!), but that’s been tough between being stuck indoors and me wanting to spoil her with treats.

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She’s been adjusting wonderfully, however.  I wouldn’t even say she’s adjusting anymore.  She’s just here and she’s our dog.  She belongs here.

Soy Bean and I have been getting in our walks at Target which also equates to Mommy spending lots of $$$… I like say I’m a patron of Target.  We’ve managed to visit a few friends so far and have plans to see more.  We’re also looking forward to enjoying a summer near the coast.  For the last decade of my life, I’ve lived about an hour from the nearest beach.  Also, the hubs and I are starting to plan a special date night to celebrate our wedding anniversary.  I can’t believe we’ve only been married for three years and have known each other for four!

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I will honestly say, and I don’t mean to be divisive, but as someone how is a working mom but gets to spend a few months as a stay at home mom, I am finding being a SAHM a lot harder.  I can’t say I didn’t anticipate this but I’m surprised how tired I am at the end of the ay (even when a sneak in a nap with SB).  Hats off to all moms.  Seriously…

What’s for Dinner?

I haven’t forgotten.

Well it’s past 8 and we haven’t eaten yet, but for the sake of preserving WFDW we are having some Beast Burgers.  We just put the baby to bed and the hubby is downstairs in his “office” (aka table in the basement) logging his hours for the day.  Dylan spent about a half hour upstairs with Soy Bean putting him to bed, and I got SO much done.  It’s really amazing what you can do without a one year old attached to you!  I paid two bills, unloaded the dishwasher, RSVP-ed to a baby shower, bought a shower gift, and made a vet appointment for Daisy.  Go me!

Okay back to food…What I love about this meal is Dylan is totally in charge now that he has a grill.  Woohoo!

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Beast Burgers are a little bit pricy, but they are totally worth it and make a nice special treat.  I’m just hoping we have some outdoor weather soon so we can enjoy a meal on our deck.

Where is summer?

 

Meet Daisy

Okay guys, I think my husband and I are officially crazy.

Either that or we need to go into the puggle retirement home business…

Please welcome the newest member of our family, Daisy.  Daisy is an 11 year old puggle we rescued last week.

So here’s the story.  Last week I was a little bored so I decided to check out petfinder.com.  I plugged in pugs in the Boston area and this adorable girl popped up.

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I read her bio and immediately fell in love.  Who couldn’t love that face?  She reminded me so much of our Sophie and I couldn’t imagine her spending the rest of her days in a shelter. I texted my husband and I must have caught him at a good time because he said we could get her!

Long story short, my stepson drove into Boston the very next day to meet Daisy.  When we arrived they brought Daisy out from her cage.  She was more interested in the treats we had for her at first, but we took her out and you could just tell she was a sweet dog.  The adoption process was super quick and easy.

Daisy was surrendered by her family earlier this month.  She had been with them since she was a puppy, but they were moving and could not have her at their new home.  I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been.  When we rented our last apartment it was challenging to find a place that was pet friendly and affordable.  I have zero judgement and I can tell by her temperament she was a very loved dog.

She came from a family with three children, and you can tell because she is very comfortable with our kids.  She loves to snuggle and snooze and is just the sweetest.  She makes Sophie look young for sure since she’s a little overweight and has some arthritis.  I know adopting a senior dog has some challenges, but if you’re looking for a gentle friend who loves nothing but head scratches and snuggles it’s the way to go.  She’s a healthy dog, but I understand she is older.

No matter how long we’ll have with her we will love her every single day for the rest of her life.

A Late WFDW…

I okay, so I’ll confess that I thought most of today was Wednesday.

That will happen this time of year!  Tomorrow is my last day of the 2017-2018 school year and I’m so anxious for summer!  I love my job and my seeing friends at work everyday, but I can’t wait to walk out tomorrow and be free.  I’ve been waiting all year to have unlimited Soy Bean time.  Last summer I was so nervous taking him out and plus I was recovering from having him, so this summer I want to soak up.  It’s also going to be the first full summer in our house, and we are excited to do some yard work and enjoy our home.

Well I didn’t document it, but we had burritos from Moe’s last night.  I have a good excuse though.  We had a pretty eventful evening.  One of our cars unexpectedly crapped out on us last week, so we had to buy a new one.  I wasn’t thrilled at first, I mean having just one car payment is pretty sweet, but I love the new car.  I guess I’ll deal with it.

Soy Bean had his 12 month appointment today and he is officially a giant!  Well maybe that’s a bit of a hyperbole, but he’s a big boy.  I’m so grateful that he’s healthy and thriving.  I’m sure Soy Bean was happy too, but maybe not so much after his three shots and blood test.  He’s a tough cookie though.

Alright back to food, so I didn’t take a picture of our dinner last night, but I thought I’d dig through the archives of my phone and find a few foodie ideas (that I could have easily eaten on a Wednesday).

Also, yes, I take pictures of food randomly…my phone is loaded with Soy Bean, Sophie, and food pics.

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First, as you can see is vegan tikka masala from Trader Joe’s.  I can’t tell you how bummed I am that I don’t live 10 minutes away from a TJ’s anymore.  This meal is great when you don’t have time to cook, but you want something satisfying.  When I make this I usually mix in some broccoli as well.  I’ve brought this for lunch at work since it’s microwaveable and I’ve made it for dinner for the hubs and me when we want take out food but don’t want to go out.

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Next is the Beast Burger.  I’ll probably be plugging Beast Burgers a lot since I bought Dylan a grill for Father’s Day.  Beast Burgers are the most amazing veggie burger out there.  What I love about them is they are a pea based protein (I try to limit soy) and they honestly taste and look like a real burger.  Who doesn’t love a burger (and fries)???

So next week is my fist official week of summer.  I’m hoping to fit some blogging in (when SB is sleeping of course).  So far I have SB signed up for swim lessons, but that’s really it for solid plans.  We’re hoping to spend as much time outdoors as we can and have some playdates with friends.

Alright, I’m going to retire for the evening.  One more wake up!

What’s for Dinner Wednesday

Okay, so I thought I’d start something new now that we are approaching summer…What’s for Dinner Wednesdays.  Clever right?  Don’t be disappointed if this is the only WFDW post, but I will make my best effort.

Tonight for dinner, the hubs and I rebelled against Taco Tuesday and dove head first into Taco Salad Wednesday, which is Taco Tuesday’s healthier cousin.

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I replaced the taco meat with Beyond Meat’s beef crumbles.  I was able to find the “feisty” version at Whole Foods.  I sauteed this with (no oil) frozen corn, peppers, and onions and topped it on a simple salad with some homemade guac.  Easy enough.  Oh and don’t forget the chips on top as well for some crunch.  I used hot sauce as a dressing, because I’m weird like that.

Having one meatless meal a week has a positive impact on animals.  I encourage my carnivorous friends to check out Beyond Meat’s products.  I really think if you tried this salad you would not know the difference!

Well this is our first edition of WFDW…tune in next week if now before.